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This material aims to awaken you to your patterns of functioning and how you relate in the world. Just like the elephant in chains, you may have some very limiting beliefs and behaviors that have been working against you that you haven’t even realized. Until now.

Taking a good look at these patterns will equip you with profound self-awareness, allowing you to step into self-defining and self-responsibility. Through the use of the impactful tools in this program, you will be able to navigate better in life and relationships. You can finally begin to put an end to tireless functioning, sabotage, and self-destruction. You will be able to create healthier, happier, and more authentic relationships and circumstances. You will be better equipped to cope, manage, and assert yourself.

You may notice a stark contrast in how you function between the many different roles you play. There may be a significant difference in how you think, act, and feel in your personal vs. professional life. It is not uncommon for matters of the heart (interpersonal relationships) to evoke certain feelings, fears, or behaviors vs. a work environment in which your worth, value, and competence may be at stake. You may notice a difference between who you are in social settings vs. with your family. These are important distinctions to note. Exploring these differences will help deepen your awareness and insight. Looking even further into the reasons for these differences will allow you to dig even deeper into understanding how you function and why you function the way you do.

You may want to explore how your patterns were created and how they’ve played out through different stages of your life, situations, and relationships. Perhaps you’ll notice long-standing family or cultural patterns that have been learned and reinforced throughout your life. Now is the time for some self-honesty and self-compassion as you step into a new level of awareness and personal responsibility.

Let’s be clear, you weren’t born with these patterns. Babies don’t come out of the womb looking to please people, trying to be perfect, or mitigating conflict. Your behaviors were learned and somehow reinforced throughout your life. Though you certainly may have a particular nature, disposition, preference, or temperament, the patterns we’re discussing here are not your essence. Perhaps they’re good traits gone too far. Perhaps they’re not true to you at all; they’re just habits.

It is time to let go of the self-talk that reinforces your limitations, such as “That’s just the way I am.” or “I’ve always been like this. I can’t help it.” Yes, you can help it. With some awareness, understanding, and conscious choice, you can absolutely change these patterns.

You’ll be asked the question, “Why?” frequently throughout this program. It is to help you clarify your perspective, thoughts, feelings, and motives. Determining why you’re doing something is a critical starting point to this process. Understanding and clarifying your motives will help you have a strong picture of whether a behavior is healthy or unhealthy and effective or ineffective. Only you know your motives. It is essential to be honest about what you’re doing and why. If your response is “I don’t know,” sit with it longer until you can figure it out. There’s no judgment, but motives are critical to determine so you can get to the bottom of why you’re doing the things you do.

There is a vast difference between feeling a spiritual drive to do something vs. doing something out of obligation, habit, fear, or avoidance. Doing something because you love it and have fun with it is much different than trying to impress someone. Staying with someone out of love and commitment during a challenging season is much different than staying so you don’t feel alone or sad. Be honest with yourself and look deep into your heart to understand yourself more clearly. It’s okay if you have several motives all at once. However, it is time to decipher which motives are your driving force, then go from there.

I encourage you to take your time exploring your inner workings during this program. You will get as much out of this material as you put into it. Awareness can take some much-needed time and might be a delicate process. You may even find a lot of emotion begin to stir up. That’s all part of it. Therefore, I encourage you to set your own pace, be honest, and practice self-compassion. Let’s begin!