Feelings, Needs, & Strategies

Feelings: Expressing how you actually feel about what you have observed

  • There are no Right or Wrong feelings.
  • Serve as indicators
  • Based on our interpretation, past experiences, and belief systems
  • Real, not fact
  • We have a right to express our feelings

Basic Needs: FoodAirShelter, and Water are all that’s needed for Survival, but more is needed for a happy & fulfilled life.


To require something because it is essential or very important.

  • Physical, Emotional, and Spiritual
  • Universal and Basic
  • No specific person, place, or thing
  • All behavior is an attempt to meet a need

Strategies: What we do in order to meet a Need.

  • May rely on another person, place, or thing to help meet the need.
  • May vary from day to day, person to person, and situation to situation.
  • This is often where conflict arises.

Sabotaging: Is the Strategy your choosing actually Sabotaging you?

Trade Offs:  How we meet one need can result in a trade off another need.